Speaking The Truth

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My mind was a mess as a young adult; I didn’t know who I was or what my beliefs were.  People pleasing was my life skill, it was how I’d made it to adulthood.  But now, in this real world I found myself in, there was a new challenge to face: being me.  But what was me?

Well, I had a breakdown, and tried to look at it from every angle.  I looked at reality and tried to make that absolute too.  It worries me a little to this day.

But what I realised, in increments, is that it’s okay to be a little unsure.  Everything you’re experiencing is ok.  So long as you’re honest, at least with yourself, about it.

Honesty is the only way to de-tangle a brain.  Go on, give it a go.

Health Headlines

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“Shock story!”  “Disease risk!”  “…as rates reach record high!”

Illness is categorised and then sensationalised.  It is torn apart from it’s counter-part, health, and presented as an entrancing gruesome tit-bit for you to enjoy with your coffee.

It is telling that only one out of twelve headline articles on the CNN website is even in the vein of  ‘Slow down and live long with the ancient practice of qigong’.

Basically, the media makes health and illness into something completely alien from what it is – to sell papers – by making it exciting, whereas actually we all really just need to listen to ourselves and what we need to be well.

Trust yourself, listen to yourself.  Stay well.

Business Planning

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I have been very concerned about timing in my business planning.  ‘I have to have done X before I can do Y’, etc.  But really, it doesn’t matter.  What matters is that I’m happy.  End of.

Is happiness in your business plan?

The Beauty of Reality

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Our souls are beautiful – we all know that.  We also all know that everyone is a good person, deep down.  We have all just been skewed in various ways by our parents/relatives/friends/life in general.  What matters now is how we act and how we love.  We can be bitter and twisted, or we can care and support.

This post isn’t quite about that, though.  It’s about love, and how we approach being a partner.  Yes, we are, in general, slightly fucked up good people.  What matters is not the beauty of our souls, though, but the grace with which we look after ourselves.  This is the trick, the knack, the reality to love and life.

Putting Yourself First

Sometimes, it is only right, and only sensible, to put yourself first.

If you care too much for another, to your own detriment, you are putting yourself in harm’s way, and other people will have to pick up the pieces.

It is not fair to yourself, and it is not fair to others not to look after yourself.

Be strong, put yourself first.

A Life Review

We are here, now. To a large extent it is us who has put us here. We have followed a course of action and… Ta dah… here we are. But, every now and again, it is natural to question our motivations. It is natural to wonder if we are walking the right path.

Well I did recently, and instead of letting my hard work go to waste, I have continued on the same path and mentally reframed what I’m doing. It’s been a subtle shift in mentality, but one that reflects the growing changing nature of life.

I am walking the same path now, but with a slightly different beat in my step.

Every Dream Starts With A Yearning

Being honest? I yearn for love, I yearn to feel good about myself and the world. I yearn for peace.

Those are the realities behind my dreams, and I have created a world in which I think I am best placed to find them.

What do you dream of, and how have you shaped your life to find them?

Doing It Anyway

It is a night out, and I am on my own. I decided, when my friend bailed, that I would come out anyway. I went to a really friendly pub and have made friends. As a disabled person, I am so glad to have made the effort. I am having a great night. Sometimes it is good to push your own boundaries.