My mum is having a Christmas party today. As excited as I am to see friends and family, I have to admit I find these things a bit of a trial. Old memories become fresh again, etc. This time, however, I have approached it slightly differently.
‘How can I support you?’ I asked my mum. This gives me the security of knowing what I’m doing today,, and the happiness factor of knowing I’m supporting someone.
The way things have gone recently, I don’t feel like I have very much agency at the moment. It is not my ideal situation. So to get through, this time, I am using the ‘one day’ trick. I know that one day I will have freedom and will have a lot of agency over my own life.
What are your tricks for getting through less than ideal situations?
Our souls are beautiful – we all know that. We also all know that everyone is a good person, deep down. We have all just been skewed in various ways by our parents/relatives/friends/life in general. What matters now is how we act and how we love. We can be bitter and twisted, or we can care and support.
This post isn’t quite about that, though. It’s about love, and how we approach being a partner. Yes, we are, in general, slightly fucked up good people. What matters is not the beauty of our souls, though, but the grace with which we look after ourselves. This is the trick, the knack, the reality to love and life.
Every creature has a lot to overcome. I have an illness or two, etc. Sometimes life can be a struggle. For everyone. But how we see our challenges radically changes our future. Here’s how: if we just mope around feeling sorry for ourselves, what scope is there for making a positive outcome happen? I can’t see it. The only way to make positive changes is to see each challenge as a chance to grow.
It’s got cold here in the United Kingdom, and it is my favourite season. Hot chocolates, snuggling by the fire. But the best and most important thing is to wear warm clothes. That means big coats, scarves, mittens and woolly hats. Mine has a bobble on it. What will you wear this Autumn/Winter?
Yes, bad stuff happens. But, essentially, we are in control of our own lives. With each healthy meal we eat, with each workout that we do, we are shaping the future we want – a future that will make us happy. It is implicit, then, that success is completely subjective.
To me, success is having a healthy body and mind. I’d like to help others. I’d like to have financial freedom, and handle that with integrity.