My mum is having a Christmas party today. As excited as I am to see friends and family, I have to admit I find these things a bit of a trial. Old memories become fresh again, etc. This time, however, I have approached it slightly differently.
‘How can I support you?’ I asked my mum. This gives me the security of knowing what I’m doing today,, and the happiness factor of knowing I’m supporting someone.
The way things have gone recently, I don’t feel like I have very much agency at the moment. It is not my ideal situation. So to get through, this time, I am using the ‘one day’ trick. I know that one day I will have freedom and will have a lot of agency over my own life.
What are your tricks for getting through less than ideal situations?
Our souls are beautiful – we all know that. We also all know that everyone is a good person, deep down. We have all just been skewed in various ways by our parents/relatives/friends/life in general. What matters now is how we act and how we love. We can be bitter and twisted, or we can care and support.
This post isn’t quite about that, though. It’s about love, and how we approach being a partner. Yes, we are, in general, slightly fucked up good people. What matters is not the beauty of our souls, though, but the grace with which we look after ourselves. This is the trick, the knack, the reality to love and life.
I get thirsty, a lot. And when I do, I drink tap water. My super health conscious friend recently advised I start drinking spring water instead. I did, and I noticed the difference straight away. I felt lighter and more well immediately, and it seems to be getting even better with time. My under eyes are not dark anymore.
I think it is due to the heavy metals in tap water.
Every creature has a lot to overcome. I have an illness or two, etc. Sometimes life can be a struggle. For everyone. But how we see our challenges radically changes our future. Here’s how: if we just mope around feeling sorry for ourselves, what scope is there for making a positive outcome happen? I can’t see it. The only way to make positive changes is to see each challenge as a chance to grow.
It’s got cold here in the United Kingdom, and it is my favourite season. Hot chocolates, snuggling by the fire. But the best and most important thing is to wear warm clothes. That means big coats, scarves, mittens and woolly hats. Mine has a bobble on it. What will you wear this Autumn/Winter?
How do we deal with uncertainty? Well, letting go of the ‘I can’t cope’ story is a start. When we engage in a mindfulness practice, we start to see the narratives we tell ourselves for what they are; stories we tell ourselves.
But what if we’re wrong, what if instead of being fearful creatures we’re actually strong and resourceful?
When you engage in mindfulness, you can battle things that usually give you the trembles, like uncertainty, by seeing through your mind’s usual story. And you can write a newer, truer one, if you like.
I am working on it. I am. Acceptance is the root of mindfulness. Sometimes you’re happy, sometimes you’re sad. If you accept each state as it comes, without holding on to any state, then you have done it. You are being mindful. You are at peace.