Every creature has a lot to overcome. I have an illness or two, etc. Sometimes life can be a struggle. For everyone. But how we see our challenges radically changes our future. Here’s how: if we just mope around feeling sorry for ourselves, what scope is there for making a positive outcome happen? I can’t see it. The only way to make positive changes is to see each challenge as a chance to grow.
What can I say… I always love dressing up. Dressing for an occasion is one of my favourite pass-times; it occupies a lot of my thoughts. Recently, I have been thinking about how to dress for ‘work’ (when this blog has got where I plan for it to go), and I have decided to start dressing for it now. I believe it will open more doors; the right doors, the more I do.
So, I have found the perfect brand and I bought a dress today. My wardrobe is excited for it’s revamp.
I am working on it. I am. Acceptance is the root of mindfulness. Sometimes you’re happy, sometimes you’re sad. If you accept each state as it comes, without holding on to any state, then you have done it. You are being mindful. You are at peace.
Yes, bad stuff happens. But, essentially, we are in control of our own lives. With each healthy meal we eat, with each workout that we do, we are shaping the future we want – a future that will make us happy. It is implicit, then, that success is completely subjective.
To me, success is having a healthy body and mind. I’d like to help others. I’d like to have financial freedom, and handle that with integrity.
When you have got through a day, and you look back upon it, there are usually ‘things that went well’ and ‘things that didn’t go so well’ to embrace. Usually we look with delight at the first category and horror at the second, and that is the end of it. Sometimes we might ask ourselves why the second happened, and come up with the answer that it was his or her fault. ‘If they’d only…’ and so it goes. But this is a useless way of thinking. Instead, think about how you contributed to those outcomes. Will you do the same next time? Taking responsibility for your life is the only way to move on quickly, and make for better outcomes tomorrow.
I suffer with perfectionism… big time. I am trying to write a book at present, and I keep stalling. I fear it will never get done, I fear it won’t be good enough. The thing is, if I don’t start, the first will be true, and I’ll never learn how to bring a book from idea to conception.
The fact is, starting is learning. Making mistakes is learning. I have the feeling I will have to keep telling myself that, but I’m sort of excited now I know I’m allowed to make mistakes.